Hand in my pants

Originally published in Express Magazine on 11th May 2012.  This is not the picture originally included with the article!

Hooray for May! While it’s rapidly heading into the chilly season, I happen to be flinging off my clothes rather than wrapping up warmly. Why? Because it’s International Masturbation Month, and I want easy access to my nether regions!

Not that I don’t wank the rest of the year, of course – but come May I ramp up the intensity considerably. The rest of my spelunking-related-activities increase too. I suspect by the end of the month everyone will be sick of me talking about jilling, writing about rubbin’ the nubbin, whinging about my aching fingers, hunting for more batteries and taking up all the outlets recharging my toys – not to mention asking if everyone else is blissing off as well.

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Intriguing Reading #24

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Kate Bornstein’s Amazing Voyage: “… Bornstein has managed to both anger and delight most camps in the LGBTQ universe; a male-to-female transsexual lesbian, she has felt rejected by both the transsexual and lesbian communities at one time or another while she has tried to educate the rest of us that people don’t have to be either men or women. It was one of the many revelations in Bornstein’s revelatory life that she came to the stunning notion that she was really neither.” (Tony Ortega / Village Voice)

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Intriguing Reading #23

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

The Perks of Herpes: “Before herpes, I didn’t think about my body much. But the virus had jolted me into self-awareness. I ate better. I exercised more. I felt more fragile and powerful and worthy of careful handling than ever. Herpes, oddly, did not turn me into damaged goods. Instead, it became a filter for expendable men in my life.” (An HSV Positive Lady / The HairPin)

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Intriguing Reading #22

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Erotic Choose-Your-Own-Adventure: “ How does one get undressed in the manner of a clumsy virgin, BUT with the skill of a stripper?  I mean, obviously you could be a virgin and a stripper at the same time, that is a thing that could happen.  But “clumsy” and “skilled” are sort of diametrically opposed. Other things that are diametrically opposed: this book, and arousal.” (Unfortunatalie)

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Chill Pleasure

I pull the glass dildo from its fur pouch, and a shiver goes through me as I feel the solid coldness of it. Smooth and rounded, weighted and clear, it holds all the chill of winter within itself.

Other than my questing hand, the rest of me is snuggled deep into flannelette sheets; the winter duvet and two blankets weighs warm atop of me. Resting by my feet is a toasty wheat-bag; another is by my groin. (Over the other side of the bed, Apollo’s feet clasp a hot-water bottle instead. To each their own.)

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Intriguing Reading #21

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Known Unknowns, and Unknown Unknowns: When S&M Scenes Go Wrong: “Both these scenes gone wrong involved “unknown unknowns.”  There was something important that I didn’t even know I didn’t know.  I didn’t know that Holly’s interest in Daddy/girl dynamics didn’t translate to a more general interest in roleplay.  Bryce didn’t know that a light face slap was completely off limits.” (Lily Lloyd)

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Intriguing Reading #20

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Why Can’t We Have Good Articles About Polyamory?: “The big problem that I have with this article is that it reinforces the idea that open relationships are impossible. But believe me- they aren’t. I’ve found polyamory to be amazingly fun, incredibly challenging, and ultimately rewarding. They aren’t for everyone and I 100% respect any and all relationship choices that people make. I just wish that this article had done that, too.” (Charlie Glickman)

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Intriguing Reading #19

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Isn’t it Time We Had a Female James Bond?: “I want to see Jane coolly and competently flipping people out of the ejector seat in her Aston Martin, taking down the bad guy in one shot while surrounded by a hail of bullets, and escaping from the scene in a tank or something. We tell girls that they can do anything, but the action heroes are usually dudes, and while the Bond girls are getting cooler…they’re still the Bond girls, you know? I want to see Bond BOYS. And girls, because, hey, maybe Jane rolls that way.” (s.e. smith / xojane)

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Intriguing Reading #18

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.  Lots this week!

Slut! Should We Reclaim the Word, or Banish It?: “My comfort in this case might speak to a lack of daring: It’s certainly less bold to align yourself with “sluts” who use birth control and testify before Congress in conservative professional attire than with “sluts” who raucously march through the streets wearing fishnets and bustiers. Maybe on an emotional level I buy into the notion of good girls and bad girls.” (Tracy Clark-Flory / Alternet)

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Intriguing Reading #17

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

Poly Introverts: “Having the capacity, the inclination and the desire to build deep, intimate, loving connections with multiple people does not automatically equate to that extroverted desire to be with people all the time.” (Alice Digitalis)

Teller Reveals His Secrets: “Magic is an art, as capable of beauty as music, painting or poetry. But the core of every trick is a cold, cognitive experiment in perception: Does the trick fool the audience?” (Teller / Smithsonian)

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