Ancestors

Because I’m a curious person, I get to wondering about how sexual the previous generations of my family were.

(This isn’t as weird as it sounds. My parents are dead. All grandparents bar one are dead. And the greats? Long gone.)

Obviously they were sexual enough to reproduce, otherwise I wouldn’t be here. That goes for the ancestors of most everyone on the planet. But were they happy? Did they smile, or ‘think of England’? Did they have relations because it was part of marriage and expected of them, or necessary to survive, or did they take pleasure – and give pleasure – and feel joy in coming together?

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Seriously Proud Queer

For a long time I was uncomfortable with the term ‘queer’ – at least when it came to applying it to myself. Despite knowing that many people regard it as an umbrella term for those of diverse sexual orientations and gender identities, it didn’t feel like it was a label that was right for me.

I’m quite particular about my labels. I really like to have them, with the proviso that I have chosen them myself – and I write them on removable stickers, in pencil! So sure, I’ve plastered myself with pansexual and polyamorous – either of which is enough for various friends to tell me that the label suited me. But I needed to work it through for myself, to see if it was a term I could come to terms with, reconcile to my sense of identity.

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Inspirational

I was surprised to be given the Very Inspirational Blogger Award – and then I was really surprised and extra surprised, because over the last few weeks five different people have awarded it to me! Many, many thanks to Rebel, Kazi, Pea, Mia and Stella for saying such lovely and blush-inducing things

I don’t feel inspirational, you know – and that’s not me fishing for compliments. Whenever I am told this I thank the person in question politely and then go away to scratch my head and wonder how that happened, because I’m just me doing what feels right and trying not to hurt people (non-consensually) in the process. But if what I’m doing as I’m being me inspires others in the process, then more power to them!

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Rope Space

As the rope goes on around me, I like to help. I turn my body so the placement is more easily made. I hold sections when told to; ask for portions to be tightened more please; mention when inadvertently twisting has occurred.

And as the rope binds into place and my movement restricts, I find my heart beat slowing and my breath lengthening. I am in the moment and enjoying it so very much. Not for me the struggle to escape, or the desire to find my freedom again. Instead I revel in the tightness, the compression, the cotton or hemp snug against my flesh.

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Intriguing Reading #54

My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.

The Love Connection: “Interesting question for 4am. I told him the truth. I was lying in bed with my hand on my cunt pondering the mysteries of the world.” (Swinging Gemma)

Deep Inside – A Study of 10,000 Porn Stars and Their Careers: “So when I hear somebody claim that porn is ‘degrading’, I can’t help but ask: which porn? Is an anal scene involving three men and one woman more or less degrading than a scene in which three women have sex with strap-ons? How about a solo scene in which a woman appears alone? And if they’re equally degrading because they’re all part of a the same industry, is homemade porn that couples sell on their own personal websites part of the same monster? Much like sport, or violence in films, or cruelty to animals, I don’t think you can really drill down into the topic on an intellectually respectable level until you’ve strictly defined your terms.” (Jon Millward)

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Waving the Flag

One of the wonderful things about my best friend Kiana is that we just have so much fun together. Sometimes it’s a quiet day of reading; other times it’s hitting the op-shops … and occasionally it’s covering me in paint and photographing the results!

Before I got covered in paint, Kiana created a flag for me – one I am absolutely proud to have. Here are some more pictures of it (and yes, there are click-throughs on all of them this week):

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Lay Your Hands On Me

Today is day seven – the final day – of the Seven Wonderful Sins celebration, and the delectable focus for today is on LUST.

And being me, I asked lots of friends and lovers to give me a hand or two …

There are click-throughs on all images – don’t miss out!

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Proud to be Me

Today is day three of the Seven Wonderful Sins celebration, and the focus today is on PRIDE!

There are a lot of different ways to interpret ‘pride’ these days, but I really wasn’t sure where to take this one. Luckily for me, Kiana knew exactly what to do, and it wasn’t simply running around with a Pride Flag – although as you can see below, she did create a special one to celebrate my blogaversary. How awesome is that?

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I Want It All

Today is day two of the Seven Wonderful Sins celebration, and the focus today is on AVARICE, also known as greed.

I think it’s wonderful to want too much! I want too much, I want it all at once, I want everything right now dammit. *stomps feet*. Lucky for me, Theseus was around to help me out in photographing exactly what I wanted on this particular day.

Not photographed (but remembered with great pleasure): a whole lot of making out, skin-on-skin, and absolute pleasure.

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Nutty Like a Fruitcake

I was randomly noodling through my computer this morning, and stumbled across this post – written exactly 11 years ago today, in 2001. I’d been writing online for a little under a year at this point, and I was 24 years old…

Some explanations / clarifications after the post, for those curious. (The post is exactly as it was written and posted – no changes have been made, much though I’d love to!)

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About Dee

Exhibitionist with words, skin and sex. Free with kisses, compliments, and friendship. Open with heart, passion, and laughter.
Labels I choose for myself: pansexual, polyamorous, fat, kinky, New Zealander, writer.
You can keep my partners and close friends not-mixed-up by reading more about them here.
I write fortnightly for GLBTI magazine Express, for whom I am also the sub-editor. I also write upon occasion for other publications!
If you want to get in touch, send me an email: curvaceous.dee@gmail.com.