Every January for the last few years, m’Lady and I have worked together on my Title Deed, the document which confirms the owner/property dynamic of our relationship, and the limits we’ve agreed to set upon it. We’ve gone through it, reviewing each section and clause, discussing what’s in the document and what’s not – what we’ve found to work (and not work) over the previous year.
The very first document, signed in January 2012, took us nearly eight months to put together. January was a time for finalising, checking, assurances that this was what I wanted, what ey wanted as well.
Last year, January 2013, was a time for many additions – for the sections we’d realised belatedly were necessary and useful. It was also the time for review, for changes and alterations, as we discovered what had worked and what had not. As a living document, like our living relationship, it was right and good to be able to show it reflecting ourselves.
This year, January 2014, we simplified. Some clauses we combined, others we removed altogether. We like knowing that our previous versions are out there to be viewed and compared; they’re not lost into a memory hole, but are a guide and a trail. As always, we discussed language, revised statements, and occasionally reordered.
So once again, on the anniversary of our initial relationship, we have re-signed my Title Deed . The discussions were, as always, made at the meta level; that is, not within the dynamic but within our relationship, with respect and honesty.
Click each page to view it larger, if you wish.
The blackened sections are to protect legal names.
My hard limits (and desires) are in a 4 sectioned checklist – you can access and download the template here.
There were considerable changes in this section – #10 is a combination of two clauses from the previous year, as is #11, and previously my collar was the primary symbol while my ear-tag was secondary. This has now changed.
It is also to be noted that review is to be done annually, not six-monthly – this is because that’s how often we were actually doing it
I love m’Lady very much, and had no hesitation about renewing this document with em – but it’s worth noting that there was barely any clause that we didn’t discuss and check. Between us, we had questions and queries, things to check and clarify. And that’s a good thing – we were able to communicate about changes, language we were unsure of, and things that might be better off gone or altered.
Happy anniversary, my beloved owner. I feel absolutely treasured as your property, your fuckcow, your slut and your partner. Thank you for cherishing me and taking such good care of me. Here’s to the next year, and many after!