Open Me Up

Posted on | October 22, 2012 | 13 Comments |

For me fisting is one of the hottest, more intimate, sexual acts out there.  To trust a partner enough to relax, to open wide, to envelop them within you – to cradle them tight and deep and incredibly slickly – is an act of such mindfulness that I have done it with very few people.

Fisting isn’t quite as it sounds (any more than a blow-job is!) – but the name puts many people off trying it. I think that’s a shame, because the sensations – both as the fistee and the fister – are amazing.

My first experience of fisting was as the person doing the fisting, and it wasn’t planned at all!  It was early in my relationship with Aphrodite, and we’d spent an entire afternoon in bed, entangled and loving and tasting and teasing and going back for more. As with all new relationships, we couldn’t get enough of each other, and I couldn’t keep my hands off her (unless she was the one with her hands busy on me). I was kneeling in front of her as she lay spread, once again sliding my fingers in and around her luscious labia, dipping them into her cunt – and she asked for more, wanting penetration. So I slipped two fingers inside, curling them in the way I knew she liked. She wanted more, and so I gave her more, adding another. And then another. As she begged for more, I brought my other hand in, doing a slow tease of her clitoris as my fingers pressed and moved in her cunt.

I had five fingers gently caressing her insides – and then suddenly my palm was gone. My wrist was squeezed by her cunt muscles as she pressed down upon me.  And I was fisting!

My most recent fisting experience was with m’Lady – and it was with such delight and pleasure and intensity – on the receiving end.

curvaceousdee buttplug fisting

Opening myself to m’Lady is something I want to be able to do more of, and so the two lots of fisting we did whilst I was visiting hir recently (this was the second time – the first we didn’t photograph) were both extremely intense, both physically and emotionally. With m’Lady there is also the power dynamic, and opening to hir in this way means something more to both of us.

From my journal entry about the first experience: Very late last night we ended up with m’Lady fisting my cunt. I was so needy, greedy, wanting, desiring of more fullness within. Even the occasional scrape of fingernail and catch of rings didn’t stop me aching and groaning for more, please, or m’Lady for offering more.

Because of my desire to be able to open more, and my owners wish to be able to take me more easily, from today I also have an Expansion Training Programme. We’ve spent the last month discussing this, and I’ve spent some time putting it together: deciding on the toys to use; the timeline; and how to make it work. The ultimate goal is to make both my cunt and my arse more used to accepting larger sizes, and thus amenable to large toys, hands or whatever else happens to appeal to a) me, b) my owner (as is hir wont, and my pleasure), or c) the both of us.

I am really looking forward to starting it this afternoon! The next 10 weeks are going to be … eye-opening.

October 21st is International Fisting Day, created by Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee last year – which is why I’m writing this today (across most of the planet it still is – I’m technically a day late in New Zealand),  as I did last year.

Here are some other excellent resources.

Excellent Blog Posts

The Day has come – It’s Just a Hobby
Happy Fisting Day! – Kendra Holliday aka The Beautiful Kind
Fisting Day – Evoe Thorne aka My Whole Sex Life
Fisting Day 2012 – An Appreciation Post – Jillian Boyd aka Lady Laid Bare

Beautiful Fisting Pics

happy fisting – John B. Root
femdom fisting – Femdom Time

Great Books to Read

A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting – Deborah Addington
Trust, the handbook: The Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing – Bert Hermann (handballing = anal fisting)

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13 Responses to “Open Me Up”

  1. jemima 101
    October 22nd, 2012 @ 8:49 pm

    I love the picture!
    Good luck with the training, it is certainly something I can relate to,when the DO gave me my first butt plugs I was so excited, and scared to be widened for his use. He insists I am small, I point out he is large, only one of these things can be easily changed.

    I still remember during training, crying out when he fucked my arse, in joy at the fact it was “just like a pussy” Being open, available, able to be used by those who own us is such a wonderful feeling. :)

  2. Emily
    October 22nd, 2012 @ 9:01 pm

    What a wonderful post. Sexy, interesting, loving, and informative. Thank you

  3. That Position
    October 23rd, 2012 @ 9:47 am

    Nice post, eye opening. Worth more of a read in to the matter.

  4. FreakyV
    October 25th, 2012 @ 5:09 pm

    I remember the first time I was fisted a year and a half ago. It was painful but felt so wonderful. I craved it and I still crave it.

    I got the chance to fist a woman over the summer. I cannot explain how good it felt to have her squeezing tight all around my hand. She was yelling “Now you know why men like to be in there!” yes I do!

    I love the Fisting Wrestling porn, if you haven’t seen it, it is a must watch.

    Sadly, I haven’t been fisted in months, my boyfriend says something about the wrong angle. I’m guessing i need to stop giving him blowjobs and tell him, sorry, can’t get the right angle!

  5. Carol Anne Caiafa
    November 1st, 2012 @ 6:06 pm

    Wow, lovely story and lovely pictures! Fisting is YUM. I am going to have to include some in the story I am finally trying to write after putting it off for ages, a tale that doesn’t involve tentacles for a change, but is about my, er, OTHER obsession, LOL. :)

  6. Dee
    November 6th, 2012 @ 10:26 am

    jemina, your comment made me smile so much. Love how you say that ‘only one of these things can be easily changed.’ How true!

    Emily and That Position, you’re both very welcome :)

    FreakyV, there’s fisting wrestling porn? Now that’s something I need to find! I am intrigued :) Also, what the hell about the wrong angle? That’s one of the nice things about arms and wrists – you can change angles. *fumes on your behalf*

    Carol Anne, I definitely agree with you about the yumminess! (Also, now that I own my own tentacle … LOVE!) Will you share your story with me when it’s done?

    xx Dee

  7. Carol Anne Caiafa
    November 6th, 2012 @ 6:08 pm

    Wow, you have a tentacle? Awesome – do we get pics??? :)

    And of course I will share the story when it’s finished. I’ll post a link from my journal. Though I may have to disguise it as fan fiction as if I wrote it as an original story some people might get the wrong idea and I wouldn’t want that!

  8. Dee
    November 10th, 2012 @ 9:16 am

    There will not only be pics (I got Hylas to take some this week, as when I tried to take some myself I got very … distracted), there will also be a review!

    xx Dee

  9. Carol Anne Caiafa
    November 11th, 2012 @ 9:59 am

    Um… thanks for letting me know.

    If Hylas will be taking the pics I’ll skip it, but I hope they bring you much happiness.


  10. Dee
    November 11th, 2012 @ 10:03 am

    Carol Anne, I must admit I am somewhat upset by your comment and how I perceive it (ie: negatively).

    Hylas helped me by taking photographs of me masturbating with the tentacle, which I will be using the pictures of in order to write my review. I was unable to take the photographs myself, as I am not a physical contortionist! He does not, for this product, appear in the photographs.

    Why the negative reaction?


  11. Carol Anne Caiafa
    November 11th, 2012 @ 10:44 am

    Umm. Dee… I’m a little confused. I’m sorry if I
    ve upset you. I’ve gone back through the comments and I don’t see anything that I’ve said anything anything about you or Hylas… All I want is for you to enjoy your new toy – please forgive me?

  12. Penny
    December 6th, 2012 @ 12:28 pm

    I love this post Dee. Your description of the experience of fisting is so eloquent and the picture is incredibly sexy. I haven’t tried fisting yet, but I definitely want to when I feel the time is right :)

  13. Dee
    December 14th, 2012 @ 1:22 pm

    Thanks Penny! It’s well worth working up to and taking the time to try. The experience is challenging to describe, but I’m glad you found my words eloquent :)

    xx Dee


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