My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.
On Gym Changing Room Etiquette: “They rocked it like it was nobody’s business that they were walking about with no clothes in the company of other unclothed people – they had no shame. Well, maybe that’s the wrong word. They just didn’t make a fuss about it. They all got naked, did what they needed to (shower, change, whatever), and then left back out into the clothed world. No one was really paying anyone else any attention, they went about their business quickly and quietly.” (Miss Elly)
Trans, but not like you think: “I’ve come to believe that non-trans folks are not only capable of metabolizing more than the schlocky softball celebrity interviews and stark mirror-in-a-mirror documentary shots, but are hungry for real conversation. Gender is part of everyone’s life, we’re all negotiating the line between what we’re expected to be and who we are.” (Thomas Page McBee / Salon)
The Most Important Gay Porn Film Ever Made?: “This was not a film that was made in the absence of HIV but was created because of HIV. You can practically hear a disembodied voice whispering, “Watch closely. This is how gay men have sex now. That is where semen belongs. Fuck AIDS.” Depending on your point of view, it is either a transgressive act of eroticism or an incredibly irresponsible act that demonstrates how to become infected with HIV. Or perhaps both.” (Mark S. King / Huffington Post)
What Does Pushing Boundaries in BDSM Mean?: “I’d like to find a way to talk about the transcendence of our perceived limits within the terrain of kink, consent, communication, and joy, while distinguishing that from assault. Though perhaps that’s overly optimistic. It’s possible that the predators will simply adopt whatever new language is created in order to camouflage themselves.” (Charlie Glickman)
Is the Web Driving Us Mad? “Does the medium break normal people with its unrelenting presence, endless distractions, and threat of public ridicule for missteps? Or does it attract broken souls?” (Tony Dokoupil / The Daily Beast)