My regular roundup of interesting reads, found from all over the place.
Why Can’t We Have Good Articles About Polyamory?: “The big problem that I have with this article is that it reinforces the idea that open relationships are impossible. But believe me- they aren’t. I’ve found polyamory to be amazingly fun, incredibly challenging, and ultimately rewarding. They aren’t for everyone and I 100% respect any and all relationship choices that people make. I just wish that this article had done that, too.” (Charlie Glickman)
Study Finds that Bees Can Have Tiny Little Personalities: “Moreover, the research suggests that honeybee communities, previously believed to be rigid colonies of productive, entirely task-minded creatures (bees are communists), are comprised of bees that perform their tasks based on their own peculiar whims. What this means is that bees have personalities, so when you flee from them in terror, you can hurt their feelings (conversely, we should all assume mean-spirited bees are probably stinging people on purpose).” (Doug Barry / Jezebel)
Queer Sex Advice for Straight Girls: Can Monogamous People Date Poly People?: “If you’re considering a poly-mono relationship, often the simple question of time will help you figure out whether it’s going to work. People have drastically different ideals when it comes to how much time they want with a partner.” (Avory Faucette / xojane)
The Absurd Myths Porn Teaches Us About Sex: “Within the world of mainstream porn, erections appear upon request and continue until their owner wishes for the sex to end, at which point the orgasm is prompt. Sex positions and acts are chosen for how they look on camera, not how they feel to the participants. Everyone is constantly up for sex, with no negotiation between fluctuating libidos required. No one ever experiences vaginal farting or can’t get the penis in no matter what they do or falls off the bed.” (Noah Brand and Ozy Frantz / AlterNet)
Reproductive Rights and the Long Hand of Slave Breeding: “We don’t commonly recognize that American slaveholders supported closing the trans-Atlantic slave trade; that they did so to protect the domestic market, boosting their own nascent breeding operation. Women were the primary focus: their bodies, their “stock,” their reproductive capacity, their issue. Planters advertised for them in the same way as they did for breeding cows or mares, in farm magazines and catalogs. They shared tips with one another on how to get maximum value out of their breeders. They sold or lent enslaved men as studs and were known to lock teenage boys and girls together to mate in a kind of bullpen.They propagated new slaves themselves, and allowed their sons to, and had their physicians exploit female anatomy while working to suppress African midwives’ practice in areas of fertility, contraception and abortion. Reproduction and its control became the planters’ prerogative and profit source. Women could try to escape, ingest toxins or jump out a window—abortion by suicide, except it was hardly a sure thing.” (Joann Wypijewski / The Nation)
Pee in My Mouth: “While preparing for my trip, I packed a little book entitled Urine Therapy (written by Germans, obviously), and any time I was feeling shy or doubtful, I referred back to it like it was my Bible. Now it kind of is my Bible. The main thing that I got from it is this: It’s not weird or gross to do things with your pee besides flushing it down the toilet or bringing a Japanese businessman to orgasm over Skype. And it’s especially not weird to pee into a cup and then put that cup to your lips, gargle and swish your own warm bodily fluids, and savor the bouquet on your palate like a fine wine. Totally, totally not weird at all.” (Kara Crabb / Vice)