Since Google Reader torpedoed my shared links and I refuse to use G+, I do a regular roundup of worthy reading instead.
This is what negotiation looks like: “Friday night, Rowdy and I had a pretty major re-negotiation of our relationship. It was a hard conversation to have, the kind with a lot of sentences like “I want… well, I shouldn’t want… but I’ll just tell you… I mean to say… nnngh,” but ultimately a productive one. So I figured I’d post the meeting notes up here to give a concrete example of what relationship negotiation looks like.” (The Pervocracy)
Pay heed to those who know: “We are talking about 30 minutes or so of massage, sex, nakedness, talking, showering, then getting on with your life. Is that evil or wrong? Negotiate, pay or be paid, have sex, see ya later.” (Elena Jeffreys / Sydney Morning Herald)
Is Pubic Hair Coming Back Into Fashion?: “But is the bush back? Pirelli Calendar aside, De Brauw’s Industrie spread is perhaps a sign of a new flexibility in fashion when it comes to women having hair. Earlier this year, Angela Lindvall posed for Arena Hommes Plus in a pair of see-through underwear that clearly showed her pubic hair. Crystal Renn similarly went literally à poil for Steven Meisel and Vogue Paris. And all of the supermodels whom LOVE magazine photographed for its third issue, which came out last year, had pubic hair.” (Jenna Sauers / Jezebel)
Are Childless Women Untrustworthy as Workmates?: “So to support her belief that childless women are weird and cold and undesirable as workmates, she points to a study that shows that these tired old stereotypes and assumptions are shared by others like her. This is just sad. It’s like saying “Yes, me and my buddies down at the factory believe that people who own cats can’t be trusted, have bad work habits, and are just plain weird. The fact that so many people believe this must make it true!”” (The Childless By Choice Project)
Sexual Double Standards and Complicity: “They took me up to the control room and let me read some of the back issues of the journal. One of her diary entries was particularly strange; she’d somehow got her hands on a book of basic anatomy, and was utterly perplexed that the book showed things that she didn’t have. Specifically, the book showed reproductive and sex organs, and she had nothing of the sort–no sexual organs whatsoever between her legs. No labia, no vagina, nothing. The researchers, somewhat shamefacedly, said they had been too embarrassed to put them in the design when they were growing the body.” (Franklin Veaux / Promiscuity Keepers)
Who are you to change us?: “While I absolutely have no desire to have someone attempt to re-arrange my personality or to suppress wide swaths of my nature, I certainly have things I can learn about myself through submission, and living a m/s lifestyle. Patience, self-respect, standing up to insure my needs are met, self-care are a few that pop to the top of my list.” (Mollena Williams)
Caphaloporn, a critique: “You know that some cephalopods, in addition to beaks, have sharp, saw-edged, pointy hooks in their tentacles, right? Another feature poorly explored in cephaloporn is the contrast: smooth silky softness combined with deadly predatory razors, like a vulva lined with fishhooks. Use it, people! Good erotic art has tension as well as suppliance.” (PZ Myers)