I am not a slut? Huh?

Posted on | August 22, 2011 | 11 Comments |

According to my brother, I am not a slut. It totally floored me when he said this, because ‘slut’ is one of those words which I have cheerfully laid claim to for a number of years.

I mean, of course I’m a slut (albeit an ethical one)! I sleep with lots of people, and get nude in public, and talk about sex all the time!

But no. My brother thinks differently. Which led to a fascinating conversation on Sunday morning.

Picture the scene. My brother, in t-shirt, jeans and slippers, a can of V in his hand, sprawled on one couch. Me, completely naked (because I’d just put my nightie in the wash, and Apollo was in the shower, and I was waiting for the shower to come free), sitting on the other couch and folding washing. And we were having a discussion about my sluttiness, or lack thereof. Anyone have a grin at that mental image?

According to my brother, who very definitely got his slut on back in the day (by any definition), I am not a slut. And the reason I am not a slut is because I don’t sleep with lots of different people. How’d you like that one? It seems that because I only very rarely add new partners (or lose old ones), I don’t get to wear the slut label.

*pouts*

(I refrained from pointing out all the people in my life that I consider kissing-friends, cuddling-friends, and beating-the-shit-out-of-friends.)

(I also refrained from pointing out that if I found more people I wanted to be in relationships with, I’d be adding new partners a lot more often!)

So, wanting clarification, I asked him. “If I was a swinger, or went to gang-bangs, would I be a slut then?”

“Yes,” said he.

“Huh. So what am I?”

He looked at me like I was an idiot, before responding with what was apparently the most obvious thing in the world to him.

“You’re poly.”

And how could I argue that?

 

Reposted from May 2010 - a really awesome memory to have.

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11 Responses to “I am not a slut? Huh?”

  1. KaziGrrl
    August 23rd, 2011 @ 12:12 am

    You have to appreciate the precision of his definition LOL
    Guess you need to ‘get out there’ more ;)

  2. Dee
    August 23rd, 2011 @ 9:31 am

    Oh, I think I’m out there plenty! I’ll stick with my own definition on this one :)

    xx Dee

  3. Miranda
    August 24th, 2011 @ 5:19 am

    Definitions are so funny. I have a friend who is very against my lifestyle. She is a one woman only type thinking lifetime lesbian. In the last year she has had a half dozen “girlfriends.” Each one is the one for her.
    I who self identify as a swinger have not had a new partner in about a year and a half. I’m married, have a long term boyfriend and girlfriend, and our other friends with benefits suit me fine and completely take all free time I get.
    She considers me a slut for having more than one partner at a time. Having one after another doesn’t qualify her to the title she claims.

  4. Dee
    August 25th, 2011 @ 8:25 am

    I must admit I find serial monogamy weirder than what it is that we do… but yes. The way people define ‘slut’ fascinates me :)

    xx Dee

  5. Tom
    August 26th, 2011 @ 8:09 pm

    He has a good argument but I think I am with you on this Dee. Oh and yes I had a lovely grin on my face at that mental image.

    I do love the word polyamorous though.

    Tom
    xx

  6. Dee
    August 27th, 2011 @ 11:54 am

    Glad you liked the mental image, Tom :) And the word polyamorous too. Even if it does mix it’s Greek and Latin roots!

    xx Dee

  7. RJS
    August 27th, 2011 @ 1:15 pm

    Delightful Dee, I love the classic quote: “Since when is being a slut a crime in this family?” Too bad that more families don’t celebrate sensuality.

  8. Dee
    August 28th, 2011 @ 10:19 am

    What’s that from, RJS? It definitely suits :)

    xx Dee

  9. RJS
    August 28th, 2011 @ 10:54 am

    DD, thanks for asking. It’s from the marvelous movie “The Witches of Eastwick.” You should definitely rent it, if you’ve never seen it.

  10. RJS
    August 28th, 2011 @ 11:05 am

    Oy! I was wrong. My sweet spouse just corrected my movie mistake. The quote is from “Practical Magic,” another fab flick.

  11. Dee
    August 28th, 2011 @ 12:27 pm

    I have seen both, although only once and both quite a while ago. May have to rewatch :)

    xx Dee


  

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