Posted on | May 11, 2010 | 8 Comments |

According to my brother, I am not a slut. It totally floored me when he said this, because ‘slut’ is one of those words which I have cheerfully laid claim to for a number of years.

I mean, of course I’m a slut (albeit an ethical one)! I sleep with lots of people, and get nude in public, and talk about sex all the time!

But no. My brother thinks differently. Which led to a fascinating conversation on Sunday morning.

Picture the scene. My brother, in t-shirt, jeans and slippers, a can of V in his hand, sprawled on one couch. Me, completely naked (because I’d just put my nightie in the wash, and Apollo was in the shower, and I was waiting for the shower to come free), sitting on the other couch and folding washing. And we were having a discussion about my sluttiness, or lack thereof. Anyone have a grin at that mental image?

According to my brother, who very definitely got his slut on back in the day (by any definition), I am not a slut. And the reason I am not a slut is because I don’t sleep with lots of different people. How’d you like that one? It seems that because I only very rarely add new partners (or lose old ones), I don’t get to wear the slut label.


(I refrained from pointing out all the people in my life that I consider kissing-friends, cuddling-friends, and beating-the-shit-out-of-friends.)

(I also refrained from pointing out that if I found more people I wanted to be in relationships with, I’d be adding new partners a lot more often!)

So, wanting clarification, I asked him. “If I was a swinger, or went to gang-bangs, would I be a slut then?”

“Yes,” said he.

“Huh. So what am I?”

He looked at me like I was an idiot, before responding with what was apparently the most obvious thing in the world to him.

“You’re poly.”

And how could I argue that?

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8 Responses to “IANA…S?”

  1. Miss Magenta
    May 11th, 2010 @ 9:35 pm

    Slut, poly- the term doesn’t matter to me Dee, I still reckon you’re a lovely, lucky lass.

    xo MM

  2. Belladonnax
    May 11th, 2010 @ 10:49 pm

    I’m inclined to agree with him, but that’s just my definition. But whatever you want to be is all cool with me :)

  3. Iona
    May 12th, 2010 @ 7:24 am

    Hmmm. Based on your pout at not being a slut I think you should include it in your list of terms…just because you can. Being a slut and being poly are not mutually exlusive!

    By the way I would call you you a sapio-slut. :)

  4. Wendy Blackheart
    May 12th, 2010 @ 11:21 am

    Lol, I think its awesome that you can hang out naked with your brother!

  5. SteelHoresman
    May 12th, 2010 @ 2:27 pm

    Yeah. I guess I can’t argue with his logic either.

  6. Dee
    May 13th, 2010 @ 11:30 am

    MM – *blushes*

    Belladonna – Aren’t definitions interesting?

    SS – I may just have to update my list, I agree. And thank you for the compliment!

    Wendy – Yeah, the joys of growing up in a skin-friendly house. It’s not the slightest bit of an issue.

    Steel – Logic smogic :)

    xx Dee

  7. Kiwiana
    May 20th, 2010 @ 9:46 pm


  8. Dee
    May 24th, 2010 @ 4:59 pm

    Thanks Kiwiana!

    xx Dee


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