It’s summer, and that means summer barbecues. Nothing like quaffing liquid which make you tipsy, eating nommy foods, and talking about kink to make the days go by!
There have been a lot of summer barbecues over the last few weeks, and the most recent was just yesterday. It was great to catch up with friends, and one of them, iona, mentioned a quiz she’d done recently – and how her results had changed so much since last doing it. The quiz? Do You Have an Inclination for BDSM?
The short answer is: Well, duh. Of course I do!
BUT. I’m also aware how much growth and change I have gone through, kink-wise, in the last few months. And I’m also aware that re-doing my BDSM checklist with Hylas recently showed how much things change for me, as regards BDSM, all the time. New experiences, new partners, and new opportunities all alter how I interact and play with kink. So I was curious to see what my results would be when doing the test myself.
Below are my results. Considering how until only a few months ago I considered myself submissive… there’s been quite a change!
You Scored as Switch
You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring your sexuality with your partner(s).
|Exhibitionist / Voyeur||
My relationship with Hylas has kick-started a lot of changes for me. I’m the dominant partner in a relationship (in a healthy, consensual fashion) for the first time. I know that I get a huge kick out of being his ‘Boss’, while he is my ‘pet’ – and it works for us.
The nature of our interactions has a definite power-exchange to it, albeit in a laid-back and benevolent fashion, even outside the bedroom. On my birthday I gave him a gift – his own rubber neckwire which he wears whenever we are together, including in public places. I call him ‘pet’ most all of the time, and he does the same calling me ‘Boss’. And we just click in a way that I’ve not clicked with any other parter. In a way where I’m in charge, because we both like it that way.
That’s not how I am all of the time. With Adonis I’m definitely still submissive. With Apollo and Hermes there is no power-exchange at all. But with Hylas? With Hylas I’m on top. And that’s quite a switch!