So, having bemoaned the loss of my libido a wee while back, I am delighted to say that it is now back with a vengeance! Why had it vanished? How did I get it back?
Well, there were a few steps, and I thought I’d share my Libido Resurrection Programme™ for anyone else out there who is also hunting for their missing sex drive. The steps went like this:
Determination & Application
After two months of absolutely sod-all libido, and subsequently very little sex, masturbation, and orgasms, I was feeling rather sorry for myself. That culminated with my post about the loss of it, and my hopes for its return. Having finally written it out, I decided I’d had enough of this business – that I was going to encourage my libido to return by keeping the parts oiled, clean, and ready for *ahem* cocking.
Hence: determination. I decided that I was going to wank every other day, whether I was turned on or not – and I was, generally, not. *sigh*
Usually wanking every day is something that I would tackle with enthusiasm (as per May last year), but this was somewhat of a challenge. I wanted to keep things varied. Sometimes I would be in the shower, water beating down on me, my Citron pressed hard against my clit, and rampant fantasies let loose to roam. Those were some long showers, considering that my usual woah-to-go time is about three minutes, and it was often taking me twenty minutes or longer! Other times it would be me, a book of erotica, a bullet-vibe, and some quiet time in bed.
I quickly worked out that I was able, given time and patience, to bring myself to orgasm. But that it would be one orgasm. And when you’ve spent the best part of a decade having, well, many-more-than-one orgasm once I got going? This was damned frustrating!
Sex was, for the most part, out of the picture. While I had partners quite happy to assist me on my way to orgasm (always appreciated, that was!), I didn’t particularly feel like penetration with anything. So fingers, and mouths, were about the most of it for a while.
Explanation & Medication
I had a notion as to why my libido had left the building. A long look at my medication regime with my doctor (who is amazing, by the way) had led to a few meds being dropped, others increased, and one or two news ones added to the mix. It seemed highly likely that one of the new ones was causing the problem, likely combined with the removal of another.
There’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, though – while I may tinker (sometimes) with the amounts of various meds I’m on, I don’t stop taking them without talking to my doctor. I had a three-month-followup appointment booked, and you better believe that one of the first things I brought up was my missing libido!
She clarified for me which medication was probably causing the problem, and how to go about testing to see if it was actually the one making trouble. But we both concluded that given how well it was working for other issues, it might be worth staying on it, and tackling my libido from another angle. As it was, I went home all prepared to temporarily remove the medication for a week and see what happened … but didn’t get around to it.
Anticipation & Stimulation
I live in the Southern Hemisphere. Is that a tangent? Not really. I live all the way down here in New Zealand, and here it’s just turned to Spring. Spring! With leaves and grass and warmer weather and (theoretically) sunny skies – and a frisson of sexiness in the air.
Not only did this have the benefit of making me look at my lovers with fresh and appreciative eyes (Apollo gets perved at All. The. Time. And this just made it more prevalent!) … but it also got me noticing someone who’d been right in front of me for quite some time.
That someone, whom I’d been friends with for about a year, hit a lot of my sexy-points: long hair, geeky, kinky, tall, thoughtful and more – how had it taken me so long to notice this? Luckily, when I told them that I had been dreaming of them, and developed quite a crush, they were open to exploring that with me!
So, the delectably perverted Hylas joined my dance card. What started out as an attraction promptly developed into some serious smittenness and lust, mixed with a desire to play. Our change of relationship from friendship to kinky play partners is still under a month old, but it’s a whole lot of fun.
Not least because I am, for the first time, discovering that it can be fun to be toppy! Who knew I had it in me? (Expect to see a lot more posts about this, and us, in future.)
So all of these things, mixed together, lead to:
Celebration & Fornication
Rather a lot of both. No one seems to be complaining, though (funny, that…). My orgasm count is back up through the roof, the laundry is once again full of towels to be washed, and I’m having a grand time experimenting with kinks and fetishes I’ve not had much to do with before. And the bruises – oh, the lovely bruises!
Apollo, Adonis, Hermes and Hylas have all seen – and encouraged – rather a lot of me naked and writhing over the past few weeks, and damn, it’s good to be back to my normal, sexed-up and slutty, self!
So there you are – the Libido Resurrection Programme™. Let me know if it works for you, too!