Lessons from an Orgy

Posted on | May 21, 2009 | 12 Comments |

What you’ve been waiting to read, of course, is how Sunday’s orgy was. And the short answer is: it was fantastic!

The medium answer is: Why in the hell haven’t I done that before? Because I’m sure as hell doing that again.

And the long answer? Well, you’ll have to keep reading to get to that. But there are photos, so that might keep your attention a while longer. Or at least get you using your scroll button!

I learned a lot of things from Sunday’s orgy. And I’ve been mulling them – and discussing them with the participants – for the last few days, so I thought it was time to write some of them down.

Lesson 1: I should have done that a lot sooner

This was the first orgy I’d ever organised, as well as the first I’d ever participated in. It seems, through my various internet readings, that there are lot more spontaneous orgies than planned ones out there (please enlighten me if I am wrong), but I’d never partaken in one of those either.

Still, I really should have done this sooner. Partway through the afternoon, while we were having a break and soaking up some water and coffee cake and pocky, one participant actually asked me (paraphrased due to orgy-addled brain): “Why haven’t you done this before? Of all the people I know, you’re the one I’d most expect to have planned an orgy.” My answer was pretty simple – no one had ever asked me to (until they did). And frankly, it’d never occurred to me to do so.

Yes, sometimes I just don’t think of things. But never fear – having done this now, I’ll definitely be doing this again!

Lesson 2: Hearty food and hearty communication is a good starting point

Being able to sit down in the lounge, eat the delicious minestrone and foccaccia that had been cooking all morning, and discuss boundaries and desires and nerves while we filled our bellies? That was pretty damned cool. It was also a good way of getting relaxed together, making sure we were all on (approximately) the same page about what was going to happen, and also give us the opportunity to gird our loins for the coming encounter. (Okay, too many puns in that last sentence!)

Lesson 3: Who needs clothes?

Being clothed during the cooking process was smart. Being clothed during the eating process was also smart – who wants hot minestrone gracing their cleavage?

When it came to play time, some participants changed into robes, others into sexy nightwear (yes, I had my red nightie on), and one into nothing but knickers. But you know what? Not one stitch remained on five minutes later…

Yes, we probably could have foreseen that. But it was nice to put them on, and it was nicer to draw them all off again!

Lesson 4: Breaking the Ice/ing

There was a big advantage to spending the morning in the kitchen – making lots of food also meant making icing for the coffee cake. And there was too much icing. What does one do with leftover chocolate icing and a whole lot of bare skin?

Well, if you’re us, you liberally apply it to the largest breast in the house – and then have fun licking it off. And then licking it off people’s chins, and people’s fingers, and other breasts, and belly buttons …

It’s a great way of breaking the ice, getting things started – and also getting things nice and sticky! Baby wipes came in handy for cleaning off the extra excess after tongues had decided they wanted to play elsewhere instead.

Lesson 5: Preparedness gets you a long way

90% of all the stuff prepared for the orgy was never used. But you know what? That totally didn’t matter. What did matter was that every time someone wanted something – be it a dental dam, lubricant, massage oil, baby wipe, towel, or water – there it was. There was no need to hunt in bags, leave the (warm) room to go and look elsewhere in the house, or even to go into the kitchen. It was all there.

And if no one wanted the strap-on, the Hitachi (although that was utilised post-orgy for back rubs), or 4/5ths of the lube bottles out there, that didn’t matter. Because if someone had, it was to hand.

Lesson 6: A useful skill

I had put out many more condoms than dental dams (I assumed toys were going to get some play, I think) – and I really had that backwards! Every single dental dam out was used – some for analingus, and some for cunnilingus. Everybody’s mouth was attached to at least one other person’s body part at one point, and while protection was not required for all – many participants having been tested quite recently and not intimate with anyone new since then – it was needful a fair bit.

It’d been a while since I’d used dental dams, and I’d forgotten just how much more I need to use my hands in order to keep the dam in place (as opposed to suctioned half up my nose).The complaint from new users was the difficulty in figuring out what you were doing – flying blind was the phrase most often used.

For all that I love having both cock and cunt in my mouth, I expended all my own oral energies on arse. I’ve only had the pleasure of rimming twice before, and both times were preceded with thorough showers and a lot of fun with soap! So this was my first time using a dental dam for analingus, and I swiftly discovered that hands were an absolute necessity – and that clear dental dams would have made me a lot happier, as I couldn’t damned well see what I was doing!

It was also an interesting experience doing analingus in front of folks who’d never given, received, or seen it themselves. I’m not sure if they found it interesting or appalling, but they had plenty to keep themselves busy (and I worked very hard at distracting my partner from what they were doing to someone else. Somewhat successfully, I believe!).

Lesson 7: Go with the flow

We all took a break about an hour (or so?) in, and sat around with our water and coffee cake and pocky. By that point we’d all had some serious attention paid to each of us, and were feeling pretty damned relaxed.

So relaxed, as it turned out, that when we got back to playing, it actually turned into a massage session instead! I had the gorgeous Inttimo massage oil out (just in case!), and I had a lovely time turning the back of one participant into a slippery, squidgy, very relaxed mess. At the same time, two other participants were doing much the same thing, only sitting up rather than lying down, while the odd-one-out sprawled happily on the couch and took many seriously sexy photos of us all!

Lesson 8: More padding please!

We had a large space cleared in the lounge, with duvets down on the floor. And that was fantastic for general play, for oral deliciousness – in fact, it was fantastic for most everything!

I was well-rewarded for my massaging (and analingus) technique, and rode on the swell of an amazing long orgasm that went on for what felt like hours – and was probably 10-15 minutes. With a combination of mouth and fingers I just surfed the waves and kept on coming – which was completely mind-blowing.

A short-while after, however, when it came to actual penetrative sex, everything was kinda fail. It didn’t matter who was on the bottom, there wasn’t enough softness, and coccyx’s and backs and body parts generally hurt. Apparently we’re all used to mattresses. This turned out to be an issue for everyone trying penetrative sex. The floor was large enough but not soft enough, and the couches weren’t wide enough to be successful. *sigh* Something to fix next time!

Lesson 9: I love my orgy partners

Everyone participating in the orgy was someone I’ve known and loved for a fair amount of time. Whether in a serious fashion or in a more relaxed friends-with-benefits, these were all people whom I’d been naked with, shared orgasms with, and shared part of my heart with.

For me there isn’t sex without love, and it seems that for most (if not all) of the participants, it’s the same. This orgy was less about ‘getting it on’ and more about bringing beloved people to intense pleasure – or watching people you love pleasuring others while you’re collapsed, post-orgasmic, on the couch.

Yes, I’ll be doing this again. With these people, and with other people I love. And I think it’s going to be a while before I stop bouncing with excitement over the one we’ve just had – I don’t want something like this to ever become blase!

All pictures in this post are from Sunday’s orgy – and all participants have given their approval for these images to appear. We hope you liked them!

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12 Responses to “Lessons from an Orgy”

  1. Steve
    May 22nd, 2009 @ 12:33 am

    Sounds like you had a wonderful time! Not sure who’s luckier, you for having lovers willing to try all that with you, or your lovers for being able to do all that with you! ;-)

  2. Mistress L
    May 22nd, 2009 @ 12:38 am

    Yay! Glad to know it all went well. It sounds so incredibly hot!

  3. The Fury
    May 22nd, 2009 @ 2:40 am

    Wow you gave a sexy do and don’ts for orgies. I appreciated that quite a bit! ;-)

  4. txvisionary
    May 22nd, 2009 @ 4:21 am

    never experienced an “organized orgy” but this so makes me want to…nice pics by the way and I’m sure you were AMAZING in that red nightie

  5. Oonai
    May 22nd, 2009 @ 7:16 am

    Yay for the red nighty! I’m glad it went so well for you all

  6. Licentious_Jerk
    May 23rd, 2009 @ 2:30 am

    Looks so hot. Thanks for sharing a lessons learned for the rest of us!

  7. Pepper
    May 24th, 2009 @ 9:06 pm

    Oh! I am so jealous. I would love to try an orgy some day. I’m glad it went well for you, and those pictures are scrumptious–all rolling curves and nipples. Mmm.

    What will you do to fix the floor situation, do you think? Inflatable mattresses? Foam mattress toppers? Lots and lots of pillows and fluffy blankets?

  8. Curvaceous Dee
    May 27th, 2009 @ 7:32 am

    I feel pretty damned lucky, Steve – it was an incredible experience with very special people.

    I’m glad you enjoyed knowing it went well, Mistress L!

    The Fury, I aim to please :)

    txvisionary, you make me blush (And I love blushing)! I feel organisation is a good way to go.

    Oonai, I second you on the ‘yay’! Good to see you on Saturday :)

    Licentious, it was even hotter than it looks. And you’re welcome for the lessons!

    Don’t be jealous Pepper – you can organise your own! And yes, rolling curves and nipples is just scrumptious. I think an increase in duvets and pillows is the way to go in future. Or possibly dragging the mattresses off the bed and into the lounge…

    xx to all,
    Dee

  9. {{ d a n i m o }}
    May 27th, 2009 @ 11:42 am

    this all sounds absolutely fantastic! your level of preparedness and the availability of non-sexual pre-/during-/post-orgy activities is astounding! in my world, orgies are definitely unplanned — but this type actually sounds lightyears better!

    too bad i don’t have my own apartment anymore, but perhaps when i’m overseas i’ll fly a bunch of loved ones out and we can have a nice hotel suite for the night. ;) i hope i’ve amassed more lingerie and toys in my collection by then.

    and and yes, the pictures definitely kept me scrollin’ on and i enjoyed them plenty. ;)

  10. Curvaceous Dee
    May 28th, 2009 @ 12:02 am

    We all had such an amazing time, danimo! I wouldn’t mind trying an unplanned orgy sometime, but we all really felt the benefits (and increasing excitement) of planning and preparing :)

    Delighted you liked the pictures, too!

    xx Dee

  11. Heather Cole
    February 26th, 2013 @ 12:39 pm

    My darling Dee! Thank you so very much for giving me this link. I LOVE your perspective. I didn’t organize the orgy I attended, but for future ones, I think I’ll volunteer to plan. It seems you thought of almost everything. Your post is so inspiring!

  12. Dee
    March 3rd, 2013 @ 3:01 pm

    Heather, you are so welcome! And thank you for giving me the opportunity to re-read my own thoughts. It’s definitely been too long since that orgy (it really has) – perhaps I need to get off my arse and organise another…

    xx Dee


  

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