Entangled

Posted on | October 23, 2008 | 26 Comments | Previous Post Next Post

So many things tie us to this world we live in, and to the people in it. Some are ties of gossamer, some are string, some rope, and some unbreakable chain.

Many ties can be removed, with time and patience, the links severed and the connection lost. Others, though, are deliberately strengthened, tested, and made hard and fast.

The first ties we make in this life are to our family, those who share our blood. Not all family ties make it to adulthood, with death and anger and distance snapping the strands. But those who remain tied are truly entangled.

My brother is tied fast to me, our bonds growing tighter and more complex over the years. He is bound to my heart and my life, and I gladly share it with him. All who know me and share my life know him as well, and many come to build their own ties with him.

My brother, Icarus, was building a new tie. A tie of love and closeness with someone new, and I rejoiced to see him bloom and smile as they gently wove a rope of relationship together. But that connection was ripped apart this week, as his new partner died unexpectedly as they slept together.

My brother is devastated, bleeding and torn. My ties with him mean I hurt and mourn with him. Ropes cut the flesh of us both.

But I’m glad we have them.

Thank you Dionysos for taking these photos.

Category: bondage, Dionysos, grief, hnt, Icarus, Photos of Dee, rope

Comments

26 Responses to “Entangled”

Monkey
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:04 am

omg
great pics, and beautiful words to go with them

hugs and thoughts of peace for you and your brother…

peace…
Southern Sage
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:15 am

damn that sucks for your bro.
Good JuJu out to him.

Love the last pic!! Excellent.
Ms. Inconspicuous
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:19 am

Thank goodness for siblings–your brother is lucky to have you there through this indescribable tragedy. My heart goes out to you both.

(And the picture of your face is a treat, but it feels inappropriate to comment…)
13messages
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:40 am

So beautifully written. My heart goes out to you and those you love.
Coy Pink
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:41 am

Beautiful, poignant, and heartbreaking. Lovely, lovely as always. Sending light and peace to your brother, you, and all affected by his partner’s death.
Mina
October 23rd, 2008 @ 7:46 am

Such a lovely post and I adore the last photo. I am so sad for your brother. If I knew him, I would send him many hugs.

xoxoxo mina
Amorous Rocker
October 23rd, 2008 @ 7:51 am

Just… wonderful pictures that match the words perfectly. You look lovely but this is such a sad post. I feel for your brother, you and all those touched and hurting. ((hugs))
An Artist Exposed
October 23rd, 2008 @ 8:31 am

Moving words… making the images so much more eloquent as well.
hello haha narf
October 23rd, 2008 @ 11:22 am

oh dee, i am so terribly sorry for the loss you and your family are experiencing. i can’t even imagine. all the best to you all.
thanks for the great photos…
Betty Rocket
October 23rd, 2008 @ 11:59 am

You are a poet.

My heart goes out to you all….

much love
Betty
Jennybean
October 23rd, 2008 @ 1:09 pm

Sending love for you and your brother…

Time heals…
That Toy Chick
October 23rd, 2008 @ 2:00 pm

So beautiful and poignant – I love this writing. I wish I could offer something more tangible, but add my healing thoughts to the many sending them.
Ang
October 23rd, 2008 @ 5:31 pm

With this post, as it has been all week, my thoughts are with you and your family. Beautiful and poignant as usual. Thanks for sharing.
figleaf
October 23rd, 2008 @ 6:29 pm

Nice to see your face, Dee.

Happy HNT,

figleaf
luna
October 23rd, 2008 @ 9:18 pm

I love the flogging cuff in your photos. It’s the best since I developed carpal tunnel, no stress on the wrist that way.

I’m sorry to hear of your brother’s tragedy. I hope you can help him heal.
Ms. Lily
October 24th, 2008 @ 12:24 am

Beautiful photos and words. ~Hugs~Kisses~ My sympathy for you and your brother. It is better to have love and lost, then to never have loved at all. xo
Rage
October 24th, 2008 @ 1:32 am

I really, really enjoyed these photos and loved how your hands were tied and how you wrote the words about your brother.

Happy HNT
Nolens Volens
October 24th, 2008 @ 2:49 am

I liked the theme and the reasons you gave. Really imaginative. HHNT!
vanimp
October 24th, 2008 @ 9:20 am

Hugs and love your way my sweet and if I see you over the weekend expect a squishy huggle xxx thinking of you xxx
Maeve
October 24th, 2008 @ 11:19 am

Sorry to hear about what happen to your brother…
Your pictures are lovely, and seeing a piece of your face is great!
Qetesh
October 24th, 2008 @ 11:30 am

Thanks for your comment on our blog, and thanks more for your revealing pictures and words for HNT. I want to say lots of things, some inadequate, some just wrong, but I’ll settle for thank you.
Lapis Ruber
October 24th, 2008 @ 1:16 pm

I enjoyed those insights. I know it’s Friday already but Happy HNT anyway!
Sunshine K
October 24th, 2008 @ 4:59 pm

Hi Dee…

I thought the same thing when I saw your HNT post yesterday. I love the pics…especially the last one that shows just a hint of your face. They are beautiful as are your words. Thanks for thinking I’m worthy of inclusion in your Sunday roundup.
Beautiful Dreamer
October 24th, 2008 @ 8:49 pm

I love the rope……
PantheraPardus
October 24th, 2008 @ 10:47 pm

Beautiful words, and I hope your brother’s heart is beginning to heal.

And it’s nice to see a hint of your lovely face. *hug* Someday I’ll be that brave.
Curvaceous Dee
October 27th, 2008 @ 3:58 am

Monkey – thank you for your thoughts, hon. They are appreciated.

Sage – juju? I like it! And very pleased you liked the last pic.

Ms. Inconspicuous – I will hold your heart gently. Thank you for sending it.

13messages – I’ll hold your heart gently too.

Coy Pink – thank you for sending light and peace, sweetheart. It’s much needed.

Mina – I will give him hugs for you, hon. Glad you liked the partial face pic!

Amorous Rocker – It’s been a sad week. I’d delighted you like the words and pictures though.

Artist Exposed – I can’t bring myself to post photos without words, and I needed to write out how I was feeling today.

Narf – Thank you for your lovely words. And you’re welcome for the photos!

Betty – I actually am a poet, although I don’t write it often these days. Thank you hon.

Jennybean – We’d be sunk without time. Thank you for your love.

Toy Chick – Your healing thoughts are much appreciated. Thank you so much.

Ang – Thank you so much, hon. I appreciate you thinking of us.

Figleaf – I don’t share it often, but it seemed like a good time.

Luna – It’s a gorgeous cuff, isn’t it? We followed the directions on the Knotty Boys YouTube (before they took it down).

Ms. Lily – Your sympathy is appreciated, sweetheart.

Rage – Thank you for the compliments, hon.

Nolens – Unfortunately it was not my imagination, but I do appreciate the compliment.

VanImp – You do the best squishy huggles

Maeve – I’m delighted that you like the pictures

Getesh – You’re welcome. And it’s hard to say something wrong to me, but I appreciate the difficulty.

Lapis – Insights I have no shortage of!

Sunshine – Full of compliments – thank you

Beautiful Dreamer – I love the rope too!

Panthera – I think it will take some time for healing, but thank you hon.

xx to all,
Dee

About Dee

Exhibitionist with words, skin and sex. Free with kisses, compliments, and friendship. Open with heart, passion, and laughter.
Labels I choose for myself: pansexual, polyamorous, fat, kinky, New Zealander, writer.
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I write fortnightly for GLBTI magazine Express, for whom I am also the sub-editor. I also write upon occasion for other publications!
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