This is what happens when I spend the day in bed reading an amazing book by Ursula K. LeGuin, The Birthday of the World, full of short stories that cover many permutations of relationship, sexuality, society and norm. It gets me thinking about people. It gets me thinking about sex. And it gets me thinking about people and their attitudes towards sex.
Unsurprisingly, I think that sex is great fun with willing and communicative partners. And I think violence is bad, unless it’s in a Safe, Sane and Consensual environment (in which case I don’t think of it as ‘violence’, per say, even though it may appear so to those outside the scene).
I don’t care who people are attracted to, or who they choose to share Happy Naked Fun Time with, provided all parties are happy to be there (ie: no children, no animals, no people unable to express consent). So, I say, all hail homo, hetero, bi, pan, omni, multi-sexualities. All hail the entire spectrum of kinkiness, from non to very. All hail openness, expressiveness, and ability to talk and listen to same.
It has perplexed me for many years that censors come down so heavily in sex/love scenes in movies and television shows, and yet often do not do the same for violence. I’m a fan of thrillers and the like – I really enjoy seeing Captain Jack fleeing cannibals or John McClane getting scraped and bruised as he takes down the bad guys. But movies based on real violence – war movies, movies set during war times (I still regret watching Captain Corelli’s Mandolin), movies depicting violence (and often death) that I know actually happened – well, those distress me. And yet they’re out there and they’re an accepted part of culture and they’re popular.
Sex, less so. Porn, sure. Porn’s everywhere, and I’m a big fan of it – especially the less crap options (Susie Bright has an excellent second blog running, Random Honest Porn Review, where people review porn flicks. Check it out). But depictions of sex and their many, many permutations? More often what we get is a sanitized, Hollywoodised, under-the-sheets or still wearing underwear, pale imitation of the real thing.
So – the point of this post – bravo to the European Commission for popping this online. This, I’d like to see more of.